I am not for everyone and that’s okay.
I grew up as a people pleaser. I believed that it was very important to be aware of what other people thought of me and my actions at all times. Before I made any decision, I carefully analyzed how it would affect others and their thoughts of me.
As a kid, it worked out pretty well. I was terrified of getting in trouble, having people think badly of me so I excelled at school and stayed out of trouble.
As an adult… not so much. The constant need to have everyone like me came back to kick me in the butt, again and again.
I built myself completely around others’ expectations, from the way I looked, to my friends, to my relationships, passions, personality, and more.
I became an expert at analyzing people and situations so that I could figure out the person I needed to be for those certain people in order for them to like me. I had no one true self, but instead, many different versions of me...
Let’s talk about priorities. As a business owner, I’m sure you have a long list of tasks that are due soon. How do you prioritize which tasks need to be done first?
You may be stressed and overwhelmed from trying to do so many things at once. I used to be like that too when I was still improving the infrastructure of my business. I wanted to launch a membership and an online course, and then think about a new program-- I just had too many ideas. From this experience, I learned that if your attention gets shifted between too many things, you won’t be able to deliver on one specific task.
I read a book called The One Thing by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan and it helped me organize my tasks and avoid feeling stressed and overwhelmed. According to the book, you should ask yourself this every morning: What is the one thing that you need to accomplish today?
I have a list of tasks in Asana and I choose three...